When your aging parents or kupuna are determined to remain living independently – even if they are declining in physical or mental abilities – what options do you have?
AARP reported that nearly 90 percent of aging people would choose to reside in their own homes for as long as possible, as opposed to moving to a nursing home or independent care facility.
This desire by your elderly parents to live independently is completely understandable, but it also makes it challenging for the adult child/children who are caring for them.
Many adult children actually want to accommodate their aging parents’ strong desire to stay in their own home so that they maintain their independence and active lifestyle. However, this situation can often become very stressful for the family because leaving an aging parent home alone can create additional worry. What if they slip and fall with no one around to help? What if they are unable to follow hospital discharge regimens or daily routines on their own?
If you are trying to decide if remaining at home is the best living situation for your aging loved one, here are a few important items to consider:
- Home Preparedness: If your elderly parents are going to remain in their home, you should work with them to ensure the home is safe by removing potential hazards, both indoors and out. Remove trip hazards like throw rugs, clutter, light cords and other items on the floor. Install handrails in the shower or bathtub to avoid any falls. Add adequate outdoor lighting and handrails around the outside of the home as well. Check “Essential Safety Tips for Seniors Living Alone” for additional home improvements to help seniors remain safe at home.
- Health Care Plan: Many older adults take medications daily. Develop a plan to ensure they are following the directions of their doctor. Start by making a list of the medicines the doctor has prescribed, as well as any over-the-counter products (vitamins and herbal supplements) they are taking. Go to your parent’s next doctor’s appointment to better understand their medical needs, and work with the doctor and/or pharmacist to understand dosage amount and daily schedule. Find the right pillbox or dispenser that would work best for them. There are basic day-of-the-week cups to four-times-a-day expanded versions. There are also electronic versions that can be helpful for family members like the Philips Lifeline Medication Dispenser System.
- Healthy Meal Preparation: Eating properly each day is essential for physical and emotional well-being. If your elderly parents are unable or don’t want the stress of driving themselves to the store to grocery shop, they need a support system in place. FirstLight Home Care of Honolulu provides Companion Care services where our caregivers work with your aging parents to determine the grocery list and help them with their grocery shopping. They can also help with meal preparation and other personal assistance.
- Emotional Needs: It is important for your elderly parents to have connections and activities outside of the home. Maintaining engagement within the community can support an elderly person’s feeling of connection with the world beyond his/her family. It is important that they don’t spend every day alone. FirstLight Home Care of Honolulu can provide in-home visits or help them get to doctor appointments, errands, or lunch with friends.
Caring for an aging parent who is living independently can be challenging, but by partnering with FirstLight Home Care of Honolulu, you can help them enjoy the best quality of life and maintain their independence for as long as possible. Our trained and experienced caregivers will support them and keep you informed so you’ll have peace-of-mind that he or she is being cared for in the loving way you would care for them yourself.
Have other questions about our home care services? We’re here to provide you with the support and advice you need. Just call FirstLight Home Care of Honolulu at 600-3733.
